I know I can’t be the only one around here that hates negativity. In fact, a while back I wrote a blog about how much I want to punch Debbie in the face. Maybe I’m a freak of nature, but I tend to see the “good” in what might appear to be a bad situation. I’m rarely one to sulk, beg for pity, or blab someones ear off about “how difficult my life is”.
Whenever I feel even an ounce of cynicism come over me, I make a conscious effort to remind myself how good I have it. Fortunately, the majority of my friends and family are all pretty happy people. Unfortunately, I have a few acquaintances that don’t quite share in my enthusiasm for life.
I have developed a strategy for dealing with negative people. It’s extremely simple and rather effective. All ya have to do with Negative Nancy is agree with her when she is complaining about something. After all, If you try and offer a word of encouragement, it’s not like she’s not going to listen…right? So, why don’t you spare yourself some frustration and concede to Nancy’s point.
For example: Nancy gets upset with you because you don’t call her as much as she thinks you should. Instead of trying to argue with her, tell her “You’re right Nancy. I sucked at calling you. I’m a terrible friend.” This leaves Nancy with nothing else to say. Heck, she might even end up admitting you really aren’t a bad friend. Booya for playing Jedi-mind tricks on Nancy.
I’d like to leave you with a funny little story…
An avid duck hunter was in the market for a new bird dog. His search ended when he found a dog that could actually walk on water to retrieve a duck. Shocked by his find, he was sure none of his friends would ever believe him.
He decided to try to break the news to a friend of his, a pessimist by nature, and invited him to hunt with him and his new dog.
As they waited by the shore, a flock of ducks flew by. they fired, and a duck fell. The dog responded and jumped into the water. The dog, however, did not sink but instead walked across the water to retrieve the bird, never getting more than his paws wet. This continued all day long; each time a duck fell, the dog walked across the surface of the water to retrieve it.
The pessimist watched carefully, saw everything, but did not say a single word.
On the drive home the hunter asked his friend, “Did you notice anything unusual about my new dog?”
“I sure did,” responded the pessimist. “Your dog can’t swim”
How do you deal with negative people? Any special tactics or tricks? Any people particularly close to you that always try and bring you down? A lot of women frequently battle with a poor self-image… What’s the best way for us men to snap you out of it?
p.s. Click here to watch an awesome video about a couple that found good in a “bad” situation.
Warning: It’s a tear jerker.