I got another little predicament to run by you peeps and would appreciate any and all advice. I’ll be on the road to Seattle in 12 days. It’s exciting and scary all at the same time. As you already know, I’ll be living with my parents…awkward. Girl Ninja, however, is staying in San Diego and moving in to her friends’ parents house for the three and a half months we will be apart.
Girl Ninja has actually lived with them for a summer a few years back. They didn’t charge her rent then, and after meeting with the man of the house yesterday (let’s call him Mr. Landlord), it doesn’t appear they are interested in collecting rent from her/us this go around either.
Enter Male Ego:
I feel like this is a recurring thing for me, but yet again, I suck at accepting generosity. Part of me thinks “Heck yea, more money in the bank for us!” and the other part of me thinks “They are helping us out a ton by giving her a place to stay that’s safe, the least we could do is pay our fair share.” Girl Ninja and I have been paying $1,500/month for a one bedroom condo, so paying $200/month for a room in their home would still be a HUGE savings for us.
Here are a few circumstances in which I would have no issue accepting their free rent offer;
If… Girl Ninja was only staying for a few weeks or a month
If…we were struggling financially and didn’t have the ability to pay rent
If… I was already going to be paying rent on a place in Seattle
If… I was a tool and only looked out for my best interest
Girl Ninja is staying with them for almost four months, we are financially stable, I’ll be living rent free in Seattle, and last time I checked I’m not a tool…well okay, maybe I’m a quasi-tool, but that’s up for debate.
I was pretty clear with Mr. Landlord that we wanted to contribute in some way, shape, or form. He did throw me a bone and offered up a few suggestions; A) shut up and accept their generosity, B) pay $100/month so we don’t feel bad, C) make a charitable donation instead.
We have about 10 days to figure out what we are gonna do. I like the idea of donating to charity, but I would rather give them the money so they could choose where it goes. The only thing I’m sure of is we will be compensating them in some way shape or form. The question is how? Do we send a kid to Young Life camp in their name? Do we give them a check indicating we just didn’t feel comfortable not paying rent? Do we buy them a nice fruit basket/bottle of wine? If you were in our situation, what would you do?