Do you know what today is? It’s the third most important day of the year. First is Christmas, second is my birthday, and third is Girl Ninja’s Nordstrom presale appointment. Oh wait, I just checked in with Girl Ninja and she has notified me that the Nordstrom presale trumps my birthday 🙁
For those that are unfamiliar, the presale is exactly what it sounds like. An opportunity (by appointment only) to shop all of the newest Nordstrom’s items before they go on sale to the general public this Friday. In the past, Girl Ninja’s mom has given each daughter some money to shop the sale. Obviously, now that GN is married, things are different.
During our road trip from San Diego to Seattle we started talking about the presale and how much we thought we should budget to her upcoming shopping extravaganza. After a lengthy conversation we mutually agreed that $200 seemed fair. That was, until yesterday.
Being the financial freakazoid I am, I took some time yesterday to reiterate some of the things that are important to me. My requests were something along the lines of…
- Just because we agreed upon a $200 spending budget. That doesn’t mean she needs to spend all of that. Basically, don’t buy things that you don’t really need, or aren’t really that discounted.
- Don’t buy things you plan to return. Girl Ninja is a serial returner. It’s not uncommon for her to buy a shirt (or some other item) in two colors, knowing that she doesn’t plan to keep them both. A few days later, after thinking things through, she heads back to the store to return the shirt she decided not to keep. I don’t like this. It stresses me out, so I asked that she would only buy things she was relatively confident she would keep.
I apparently didn’t communicate those thoughts very well, as Girl Ninja felt like she was being babysat and told what she could and couldn’t do. Epic fail on my part. While my concerns were definitely valid, I could have done a better job letting Girl Ninja know that these were personal preferences and not Ninja-law.
We had a pretty intense conversation about communication and how different our perspective is in regards to our finances. I don’t really recall all the things we discussed, but I know one thing for sure, I GOT SWINDLED. She played her clever female jedi-mind tricks on me and managed to negotiate her shopping budget from $200 to $300. In the blink of an eye, I was out another $100! How the heck did that happen? Gotta love GN’s ability to get what she wants. Love her for it.
Has your significant other ever pulled a jedi-mind trick on you? What was your most recent PF disagreement about? Why the heck is being selfish so easy, but being selfless so hard?!