Hi PDITF Readers,
I am a dear friend of the Ninja Household, and can proudly own 50% credit for their union. My husband (the other 50% responsible for the Ninja union) and I are here in San Diego visiting the Ninjas before they make the ever-so-exciting journey up to the Motherland….Seattle. Yes, I was one of the 0.00005% who voted that the Ninjas abandon the “adventure” and take the safe route – home to the rain.
The hubby and I decided a mid-February, pre-Valentines, Ninjas-are-moving-to-Seattle-so-we-won’t-have-a-free-place-to-sleep-in-San-Diego mini vacation was a must. Blake is escaping his fulltime job in the finance world, and I’m enjoying a much-needed break from being a full time stay-at-home-mom. This is our first vacation without the little man, and it’s pure bliss. Does that make me a bad mom for saying that?
If you wanna know more about me, I chronicle most of my daily antics on my blog, One in the SAHM. Read it. There’s a little bit of everything on there – home decorating, budgeting, baby woes, a little of this and a little of that, and even weird stick figure drawings. Oh wait. Nope, I’ll leave the stick figures to Ninja. Really, it’s mostly just my ramblings. I digress…
This trip comes with more purpose than just sunshine and California burritos, or even a free place to stay. What it really is, is a big investment in our marriage. We dropped our baby boy off with Grandma & Grandpa, so we can have five days in San Diego kiddo-free. No naps. No diapers. What more do we need? Well, a pedicure would be nice, but I’ll take what I can get.
On top of annual cheapo burrito trips to San Diego, we’ve also made the full-fledged investment in, and commitment to, a weekly date night. Especially being new parents, we’ve really come to appreciate our date night time together. Don’t worry though, to save some pennies (both on activities and babysitting), we’ve adopted an every other week Date Night In, Date Night Out strategy.
Date nights out are an adventure. We attempt to paint the town red. Sometimes limos are involved (okay, maybe once they’ve been involved), and lots of times dinner/dessert is involved.
And always some good….conversation.
Red Box and some classic board games regularly make appearances on Date Night In evenings.
Coupled with a little bit of takeout (not cooking is heavenly),
Add these things together and we’ve got ourselves a great evening.
At least, that’s how we roll. Purposefully spending money on the investment of our marriage: (at least) one trip a year sans baby, an every week rotating date night in, date night out strategy, and lots of hang out times with Ninja and GN. I can guarantee this recipe is one of success. No matter HOW you spend the money, if you are spending it on activities and events that will build your marriage – I promise you bliss. Okay, maybe not bliss. But at least a happy wife. And we all know that a happy wife equals a happy life.
Ninja’s comments: Take a minute y’all to to say hey to my girl Ashley in the comments below. She is a faithful PDITF reader, and has just recently decided to get serious about this blogging gig. I’ve never thought of the date night in, date night out strategy. I like it. Do you guys have any dating systems that you utilize in your marriages/relationships? How do you keep things fun and exciting? How do you invest in your relationship?