You all are in for a real treat. I will be out of town from August 6th through August 20th. As much as I would like to blog while I’m on my honeymoon, I imagine I’ll be having a lot more fun doing “other things”. I’ve got some awesome guest posts lined up for you over the next two weeks. Many days, I’ll be publishing two articles, so be sure to check back around lunch time. See you all on the 22nd!
It’s a little earlier than expected, but today I bless you with a guest post from the infamous Mom Ninja. She hooked me up with an incredibly humbling story. Give her some shout outs and positive feedback in the comments below and I bet we can convince her to write again. On to her post…
Dad ninja and I married when we were young, 19. We had our
family early as well, first kid at 21. I was truly fortunate to stay at home
and tend to all the little ninja’s while Dad Ninja had to go to work
I would always jokingly tell people we have a 50/50 marriage. He is
responsible for the credits and I am in charge of the debits.
While people often thought this was a joke, sadly it was true.
I came from a family with no money so I had no clue how to handle it or what
its truth worth really was. Financial freedom? I’d never heard of that.
So While dad was off toiling at work everyday, I would take the kids to the park, shopping, and even to Disneyland! This plan worked well for sometime, that is, until our family grew. Which meant our expenses also grew. I found myself having to decide weather to pay a bill or say
no to my children. Unfortunately, I chose poorly.
I love my husband and would never cheat on him, at least that is what I
thought, until I heard the word Financial Infidelity. I had to sit back
and realize I was guilty of that. Dad Ninja can have a bit of a temper so
it was just easier to leave him in the dark. Now don’t get me wrong, his
temper would consist of a little yelling, a drive in the car to calm down
and then some silent treatment, but it was too much for me to bare so I just
would not tell him about our finances and would juggle what was paid and
what was not paid.
This all came to a head of course when something as simple as a phone call,
that was answered by the mister, informed him we were late on a significant
bill. You guessed it, he confronted me with the bill and I had to admit my
Financial Infidelity on the spot. I felt DIRTY. As if I had let him and my
whole family down. Well, after a few shouts, a long drive, and some silence, we talked
everything out. Got back on track. And I’m happy to say 29 years later he still
comes home to me after a long day at work.
So, whether you are just starting out or have been together a while, don’t make the same mistake I did and
think it’s ok to avoid the confrontation. You have to be faithful in all aspects of your marriage including financially. While it may be harder to wait for something it is always better to discuss it and avoid the mistakes I, and many others, have made.
Now, think for a moment was there any thing in your past that made you
unfaithful in your spending….no judging here but really think about
it, I don’t mean gifts or engagements rings but things you know the other
person would be surprised to find were not handled correctly.