There are three things in this world that scare the living day lights out of me. Babies, houses, and Pee Wee Herman. Fortunately, I’ll probably never have to face my Pee Wee Herman fear, but I’m 99.5% sure I wont be as lucky in the other two categories.
When we first got married, GN and I talked about becoming parents after two years of wedded bliss. Ask us when we’ll be having kids now, and you’ll likely get two different answers. Girl Ninja would say she’d be ready to have kids about one year from now. A little bit earlier than we originally planned. Ask me, and I’ll tell ya I’ll be ready in about two years. Haha, I’m no more eager to have kids today, than when I was six months ago. It will be a cold day in you know where, before I wake up one day and decide “diaper changing” and “stroller pushing” are two skills I want to add to my resumé.
Just the same, I don’t know if I will ever be ready to pull the trigger and buy a home. We have a relatively lofty goal of saving $100,000 before we can start thinking about home ownership. I set the $100K amount for two reasons. 1) It’s financially prudent to have liquidity. 2) It lengthens the amount of time I have before home ownership becomes a reality (yes, it’s a stalling tactic). Buying a house scares the snot out of me. What if we buy in a neighborhood that evolves in to a ghetto? What if our house has horrible maintenance issues? What if we hate it after a year, but can’t get out of it?
Basically, I have commitment issues. Life becomes exponentially more complicated with the addition of children and a mortgage, but ya know what I’m coming to realize? Complicated isn’t necessarily a bad thing! Marriage is definitely difficult, but it’s also the BEST THING that’s ever happened to me!
So while I may never be fully prepared to change a poopy diaper or fix a leaky water heater, I am becoming more comfortable with those things becoming a part of my life. Not today, not tomorrow, but eventually.
How do you know when you’re ready to have kids? How did you know when you’ve found the “right” house at the “right” price? How do you tell that little voice of doubt to shut the heck up!?