Punch Debbie In the Face

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Now I’m not one to support physical violence towards women, but I’ll tell you right now if Debbie Downer ever finds her way around my neck of the woods, I’m gonna knock her out. For those of you that don’t know Debbie, let me introduce you to her. She is the person that points out the one stain on your carpet after you just cleaned your whole house. She’s the girl that thatΒ  reminds you of your love handles after you just got back from a run. Debbie is a professional mood killer. Debbie is a downer.

I’m a huge believer in the power of positive psychology. Penn State defines positive psychology as the scientific study of the strengths and virtues that enable individuals and communities to thrive. I define positive psychology as an inherit desire to be AWESOME. I consider myself to be a pretty positive ninja. For example, I’m positive that I hate negative people.

I have a goal to have $6MM in my bank account when I retire. I can’t tell you how many people say “It’s nice that you ‘think’ you’ll have that much, but what if….you lose your job…. your accounts don’t provide the returns you anticipate… you have unforeseen medical issues ” Umm excuse me, don’t be bringing your “what ifs” around here, I don’t need them. Maybe the stock market will crumble, maybe I’ll lose my job, and maybe I will contract gonorrhea of the mouth, but I’m sure as heck not going to live my life waiting to see if those things happen.

Look here Debbie Downer, I have goals and your negativity can’t keep me from reachin’ them. Do you all know someone that seems to be a professional mood killer? Someone that always finds something to complain about?Β  How do you deal with them? I just don’t have the patience to tolerate it and I just tell them if they want to be negative they need to go do it somewhere else. Life’s too short, don’t be a Debbie Downer.

13 thoughts on “Punch Debbie In the Face

  1. Wow, I know what you mean. I have to deal with some people who are like this on a constant basis, and some who just fall into that mood from time to time. When that happens, I have trouble tolerating them (the second mentioned) and I say, "Would you stop it with your negativity? You are bringing me down." I just don't spend time around the first category of person mentioned, and the second snaps out of it when I snap at him in the above-described manner.

  2. TESTIFY!

    I think I just caught the holy something…

    Is Debbie the one that is also always complaining about stuff, not necessarily related to you. And when you offer her advice she thinks of EVERY reason why it will never work and she's doomed to a life of failure? Yeah, she needs to be punched.

    • Yeah I hate when people ask for advice, you give it, and then they say that's not what they wanted to hear. I'm like "WTF, why are you talking to me then!"

  3. I know a couple of these Debbie's and try to avoid them. The other one I like to avoid is the one who will argue with everything you say. Stay away!!
    Think positive thoughts πŸ™‚

  4. I had conversations with two of these people over the weekend. One of them left me feeling like I had been cross-examined, on the stand. I had to counter all of her challenges to my ability to manage investments on my own. She was full of, "If this, then what?" scenarios, one after the other.

    The other person actually said to me on the phone, when explaining why she thinks 4.5% annually is the best return on money anyone can get at any time, "I wouldn't want to take a risk."

  5. Yes, positive thinking is SUPER AWESOME and totally essential to maintaining passion and focus. However…

    If you can get past the tedium of listening to Debbies break things down, the rebel in all of us can use them to reinforce our dreams and motivate us with a big fat: "Oh yeah? I'll show you, Debbie!" Respectfully, of course. No flipping the bird πŸ™‚ When you do take that risk and succeed, you might even help them take a step outside of their little fear-based bubble and reach toward their own ambitions.

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